It might help you to know that having thoughts and worries about whether you will ever be a “good enough” parent is actually very normal. It is your body’s way of preparing you for the special role that lies ahead.
Your Health Visitor is able to offer additional support if any of these thoughts are worrying you, or make you feel emotionally unwell.
Dads and close partners have feelings too and can also discuss how they are feeling with their midwife, GP or Health Visitor.
Lone parents: If you're on your own, what matters is that you feel supported as a parent - your health visitor will be happy to discuss your individual circumstances and support needs with you.
Other support: The support you receive from your family and friends after the birth can make a huge difference. Most people are happy to help and are just waiting to be asked. You might like to think about your support network. Try and arrange some support from people that make you feel good about yourself and who can also provide some practical help for you and your partner.
Brothers and sisters: A baby’s arrival will also affect older brothers and sisters. Your older children will need information and reassurance in a way that they can understand. If they ask questions about where babies come from, now is the time to tell them in simple, age appropriate terms. There are a number of books available in local libraries that help deal with some tricky questions.
Sometimes the added stress of pregnancy or life with a new baby can boil over into rows and arguments. It is normal to feel tired or a bit overwhelmed with the responsibility of being a parent. Be kind to yourself and your partner. Try to enjoy time as a couple doing some of the things that you enjoyed doing together before you started on your parenting journey. Talking openly about how you are feeling and seeing the world through each other’s eyes, can often be enough. “Teamwork” is the key.
Remember - If your partner makes you feel afraid or has hurt you, please speak up and talk to someone you trust – a midwife, health visitor or GP- we are here to help