Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity was ‘doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results’.
Sometimes it is helpful to step back and evaluate our approach to a particular problem in terms of whether it is working, whether the pros outweigh the costs. Take some time to think about the positive and negative consequences of the strategies you currently use to cope with your situation.
Remember your past successes
Remember your past successes, your personal strengths (skills & qualities that will Help you in pursuing your goals, skills you may need to develop and how you could learn these. Make a plan for change-
Plan for change
Go back and look at your action plan. If you are not ready to tackle your biggest concern you may be ready to tackle a smaller problem.
Consider the importance of making changes, your confidence that you can succeed, and your desire or excitement to make changes
Use your past experiences and self-awareness skills to identify potential obstacles as well as potential solutions to overcoming these obstacles.
These obstacles may be external obstacles (e.g. financial obstacles, social support for change, having resources available)
or they may be psychological (e.g. being unclear about your priorities and aspirations, being unwilling to tolerate certain situations or emotions)
Remember to use your Identifying psychological barriers worksheet
Brainstorming Potential Solutions
Brainstorming potential solutions. Write them all down and only evaluate or criticise them once you've exhausted your ideas.
Examine how helpful your beliefs and assumptions are
Think about the rules you live your life by. What are the consequences of living your life according to these beliefs? Do they help you to live a meaningful life or do they lead you to act in ways that are ultimately unhelpful, keep you going round in circles, cause you distress or get in the way of you living the life you ultimately want to lead?
Be aware of when beliefs and assumptions are getting in the way of you living the life you truly want. Be willing to test out whether living your life according to certain beliefs brings you closer or takes you further away from your life goals.
Design experiments using the Behaviour Experiment Form to test out whether your fears come true, but do this in a safe, measured and graded way.
Remember the 11Ps in order to perform effectively. There’s a saying that goes ‘Purpose, prior planning, preparation, passion, patience, persistence and perseverance prevent poor performance’.